Bachelor Matthew Boggs, having just endured his own parents’ divorce, was understandably jaded about the whole concept of marriage. It does seem like relationships fail a whole lot these days, so what’s the point of even bothering? Right? He/she probably doesn’t even know you exist anyway.

But wait! Boggs’ grandparents were married for 63 years, so is there hope? There must be! He and his friend and fellow bachelor Jason Miller traveled around the country, seeking tips from those rare couples married 40 or more years and have distilled them down into this: Project Everlasting: Two Bachelors Discover the Secrets to America’s Greatest Marriages.

For those couples in more dire straights or just too lazy to read (which could be why your marriage isn’t working), The Today Show has paraphrased Boggs’ and Miller’s book down into seven common sense steps. Save your marriage here.